Self-confidence is admittedly something that I’ve struggled with since…just about forever. At a young age I had visions of growing older and suddenly just adopting this cool, hip persona that everyone liked. Unfortunately for me, years passed and that persona didn’t magically come about as I grew older. Instead, it took a whole lot of time to understand the things that helped my confidence grow. While I’m still not totally and completely confident with the person I am, especially in front of strangers, I’ve been able to identify the things that help me be confident. Now, I know that this may not help everyone reading this but I hope at the very least it’ll give you some ideas.
1// Dress for Yourself
This can be a bit of a tricky one to explain for a few reasons, but I think that the bottom line is to understand what you feel comfortable wearing. For me, I feel the best about myself when I’m wearing a casual t-shirt, black jeans, boots, and either my favorite leather jacket or denim jacket. For others, their go-to outfit could be a dress with heels, or work-out gear, and that’s totally okay. If you feel like you look awesome, then you’ll feel awesome – or, at least, this is the case for me. When I feel awesome, I find that I’m more comfortable with myself, which in turn shows in my self-confidence.
2// Stop Worrying
This is a big one for me, a self-proclaimed worry wart. I am That Guy who always feels like people are looking at me and making negative comments. Are they actually looking at me and talking about me? Probably not, but I feel like I can draw more attention to myself by actively showing that I’m anxious. I know how difficult it can be to not worry, but I think that it plays a huge part in how I act. If you’ve read my 2017 New Year’s Resolutions post, you know that I’m working really had to fix this.
3// Body Language
How often do you cross your arms over your chest when you’re not feeling totally awesome and cool? I do it a bunch, and while I’m just generally awkward and no idea where to put my hands half the time, I feel like it gives off a closed-off impression to strangers and friends alike. Body language is huge and plays a huge role in how confident I feel. I always try to be open and to not be worried. Stand tall and you’ll be fine!
4// Think Positive
Again, this is one of those things that I know is easier said than done but the second you eliminate negative thoughts in your head, the better you’ll feel. Trust me. Especially in social situations, I try to focus on having fun and being myself rather than presenting myself a certain way. I never want to change myself to morph into a person that I feel like would better suit a situation. Been there, done that, and I’m #overit. Be yourself because you’re awesome!
5// Surround Yourself with People Who Love You
This one is huge, huge, huge for me. I think the biggest boost to my self-confidence was surrounding myself with people who genuinely enjoy my company and that I enjoy being around. I feel likt it’s easy to feel confident when you’re happy and having fun with people who don’t care if you can’t dance or tell awful jokes. Speaking from first hand experience, you’ll feel loads better.
Again, these are the things that I feel like have really made a difference in my self-confidence and I hope that they work for you. If you’ve found something that works well for you, what helped boost your self-confidence? Please share in the comments below – I’d love to hear!